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Top dating tips for widows

Dating again after the death of a spouse can be an awkward experience. It can bring out feelings of guilt, betrayal from the person dating again. It can also bring out feelings of confusion and concern from friends, family, and those who were close to the deceased spouse.

These are some of the best tips for widows who are dating.

When you decide to date again is up to you

There is no specific time period that one should wait before dating again. Grieving and the process of moving on is something that is unique to each person. Some people take years, others weeks, and then there are those who choose never to date again. Whatever you do, do not let others tell you you’re moving too fast or waiting too long. Make sure it is something you’re really ready to try before taking that step.

Make sure you are dating for the right reasons

If you feel like dating again, take some time to understand why you want to date again. It is not wrong to date because you are lonely or desire some company. Single people date for those reasons too. However, if you are dating because you think it going to somehow fill the void or heal the pain that comes from losing a spouse, it is not going to happen. However, dating does give you the opportunity to open your heart to another person and chance to experience the unique and exquisite joy that comes with falling in love again.

Feeling guilty is natural at first

As you date, feelings of guilt should subside over time and especially when you find that special someone you might want to spend the rest of your life with. If the guilt’s not subsiding, you might not be ready to date again. Give dating a break and try dating again when you might be more up to the task.

Do not overdo talk over deceased spouse

Unless you are good friends or have known your date previously, he or she is going to be naturally curious about your spouse and previous marriage. And it is alright to talk about the spouse when you’re first dating someone. Answer questions he or she may have about your marriage but do not spend all your time talking about the dead or how happy you were. After all your date is the one that is here now. And who knows, he or she might make you incredibly happy for years to come. Constantly talking about the past, may make it seem like you’re not ready to move on and start a new relationship. Showing that you care enough to get to know them can help reassure your date that you’re ready to start a new life with someone else.

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