Monthly Archives July 2015

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Ways to avoid divorce

Many spouses ignore for years the alarms of discontent that their partner has been ringing.  None of the complaints sounded like they might end up being causes for divorce (link is external).  When their spouse “suddenly” announces that he or she is moving out, wants to end the marriage, or even has filed already for divorce, the ground below shakes like an earthquake. Is there any way, at that last-ditch point, to stop a divorce?

Ted announced on Friday to his wife Maria (names changed for confidentiality) that he wanted a divorce.  Maria was shocked.  She had no idea that her husband had been so unhappy.  Yes, he had complained of this and that, but don’t all husbands complain?  By Monday morning however Maria had made a decision.  She would do all she could to stop the divorce...

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Best ways to understand your partner

Best ways to understand your partner

There are times that enable both you and your spouse to know each other.

Do something new together

Find an activity that neither of you have much experience with. Take tennis lessons, karate, golf, salsa dancing, stepping, rock climbing, swimming, something. Just make sure both of you are newbies and can learn it together.  You will be out of your comfort zones and probably looking a little silly, but your spouse is there looking silly at the same time.  Witnessing your spouse when they are being stretched will teach you a lot about them.

Ask questions and really listen

I think most people ask the question, “how was your day?“. But how many times do we really listen.  If not careful, that can become almost a greeting, and not really a question that you care for the answer...

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New dating rules to know

New dating rules to know

Bad news bears, singles: Online surveys has released the results of a new survey that shows the dating rules and habits have changed. Again. But even though the playing field has become a bit of uncharted territory, some traditional dating dos and do nots still apply. Bad Habits That Are Actually Good For You

“It’s important for singles to know that the dating rules have changed,” says Whitney Casey, Relationship Expert for Match.com. “This study finds that dating behaviors drastically differ between the ages. Younger singles are more likely to friend their date on Facebook, communicate by text after a date, and be evasive about their availability if they’re not interested in a second date. Whereas older singles are more cautious when it comes to dating in the digital era.”

That said, here...

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Best dating apps

Best dating apps

Critics like to talk about how smartphones, apps and the Internet are responsible for the alienation and disconnect in modern society, but technology is also really good at bringing people together. Just look at dating apps, making connections with those around you as simple as a swipe on you phone.

Tinder

Tinder has attracted a lot of attention thanks to how easy it is to set-up and use. All you need to do is log-in with your Facebook account, and Tinder will upload your first name your photos, your interests, and your age from your profile to create a Tinder profile. You can then anonymously browse potential matches near you, swiping right if you’re interested in the person you’re currently seeing, or swiping left if you reject them...

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Best tips for the perfect wedding

Best tips for the perfect wedding

Ensure your special day goes without a hitch with our foolproof advice. From venues to the guest list, we’ve got wedding planning  covered.

Start planning early

You’ve got May 2018 in your mind as the ideal wedding date, but don’t think that means you have to wait two years before you start planning! The earlier you get onto it, the easier, and less stressful it will be as your day approaches. Having a clear plan before you start will help you keep on top of everything and be sure that you don’t forget something important. Insurance, rough guest list numbers and the budget should always be your first three things.

Nail the budget

Don’t spend anything until you’ve set a realistic budget that won’t stretch you too far...

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Best ways to fix your marriage

Best ways to fix your marriage

Although a marriage in trouble is upsetting, it can often be repaired more easily than you think. The honeymoon phase in any committed relationship is not meant to last; eventually it becomes obvious that sharing life with another person requires a special set of skills. Most couples start to come apart because our culture doesn’t teach us how to maintain and strengthen these bonds.

Have high standards

Happy couples have high standards for each other. The most successful couples are those who, even as newlyweds, refused to accept hurtful behavior from one another. Low levels of tolerance for bad behavior in the beginning of a relationship equals a happier couple down the road.

Focus on the positives

In a happy marriage, while discussing problems, couples make at least five times as many ...

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Ways to find the perfect partner

Ways to find the perfect partner

The search for the perfect partner typically focuses upon looking for the perfect person with the ideal desirable traits. The major flaw in such a search is that it fails to take account of whether there is harmony between the would-be couple.

Profound loving relationships are those involving harmonious relationships in which both partners feel that they are personally flourishing within the relationship. Each of them is involved in personal intrinsic activities and they perceive most of their activities together as intrinsic activities. Functional harmony is determined by the suitability of each partner to the other, and not by whether their isolated qualities are the best in town. In such cases, romantic compromises are eliminated, or at least considerably reduced.

Functional Harmony

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